I recommend that you read these tips and come back and reference them as needed. Some will apply to your child and some will not. Some you will use during certain situations and some won’t fit at all. All tips are research-proven techniques to help with toddler behavior and language learning.
Remember, you, the parent, are the expert on your child!
Most children, like the rest of us, prefer to feel in control. By offering good choices, you set your child up for success as you provide them with the ability to have control over their environment. Also, by making positive choices, your child will build confidence with their decision making. This tip also works on receptive language (understanding questions) and expressive language (answering questions) skills.
For example, instead of asking “what do you want for lunch?” ask “do you want Chicken or Lasagna?” This way, your child can have control over what he or she wants to eat and choose healthy options. Win Win!
However, remember, sometimes giving your child the power to answer a question is NOT a good idea! My rule of thumb is... if you might not like the answer, don’t ask the question!
For example, let’s say you want your child to clean up toys.
Some children, more than others, need structure. Clear-cut rules will help with this. I see many parents, including myself, asking questions instead of telling/explaining rules. This can confuse the little ones.
Play time is not frivolous for your toddler. It is the time when he or she learns the most. Therefore, play time should be taken seriously (in a fun way of course!). Many times I see parents using play time as a break from parenting or time to play with their phones. They may clap or talk from the sidelines but they do not truly interact. This is unfortunate. While playtime may seem silly and a “waste of time” for adults, it is not! Trust me! This is the time when your child is learning. Take advantage.
Of course, you can’t always play with your child all day long. Someone has to cook, clean, and do all those other daily chores. However, when you do play with your child, make it count. Teach them. Get on the floor. Enjoy being a child again.